A wedding boutonnière may be small, but it carries major meaning. Whether you’re planning a traditional ceremony or a modern celebration, knowing who should wear a boutonnière—and when—is key to pulling off a cohesive wedding party look. This tiny floral accessory not only adds a fresh touch but also signifies important roles and relationships on your big day.
So let’s break down all the must-knows around boutonnière etiquette—from who’s expected to wear one to the style rules that make sure it all looks picture-perfect.
💐 What Is a Boutonnière?
A boutonnière (pronounced boo-tuh-neer) is a small floral arrangement typically worn on the lapel of a suit or tuxedo. Traditionally, it’s placed on the left side, over the heart, symbolizing love and respect. It’s usually pinned to a jacket’s lapel and made with one or two flowers, accented with greenery or tiny fillers.
While classic boutonnières are made with real flowers like roses, carnations, or ranunculus, modern styles can include dried florals, succulents, or even fabric flowers for a lasting keepsake.
👔 Who Traditionally Wears a Boutonnière?
Here’s a breakdown of who typically wears one on the wedding day:
1. The Groom
No surprise here! The groom’s boutonnière is usually the most detailed or special, often incorporating a flower from the bride’s bouquet or coordinating with the wedding color palette.
Pro Tip: Make the groom’s stand out by adding a unique detail—like a mini charm, herbs, or a textured ribbon.
2. Groomsmen
Boutonnières help visually tie the groom’s party together. Groomsmen wear similar (but not identical) versions of the groom’s boutonnière, usually using smaller or simpler flowers.
3. The Fathers (of the Bride and Groom)
Both fathers traditionally wear boutonnières to signify their special role. It’s a beautiful way to honor them in the family photos too.
4. The Ring Bearer
If he’s wearing a suit or tuxedo, a mini boutonnière is a sweet touch! Keep it small, lightweight, and securely fastened.
5. The Officiant (Optional)
Some couples choose to include their officiant with a boutonnière, especially in intimate or outdoor weddings. It’s not mandatory, but it can be a nice gesture.
6. Grandfathers and Male VIPs
Grandfathers, godfathers, or any male relative with a significant role in the wedding may also wear one. This is a sweet way to make them feel included.
7. Same-Sex Couples
In same-sex weddings, both partners often wear boutonnières—either matching or coordinated to express individuality and connection.
❓ When Should Boutonnières Be Worn?
Boutonnières are typically worn:
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During the wedding ceremony
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For formal portraits
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And during the reception, especially if it’s part of a more formal look
They’re usually pinned on just before the ceremony, often right after everyone is dressed and lined up for the first look or the walk down the aisle.
💡 TIP: Assign a wedding planner, florist, or reliable friend to help pin them properly—those tiny pins can be tricky!
🎨 Style Tips for Matching Boutonnières
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Color Coordination: Boutonnières should match or complement the bridal bouquet and wedding colors. They don’t have to be identical—but they should feel like they belong in the same floral family.
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Texture + Balance: Don’t go too big or bulky. A boutonnière should be light, well-balanced, and not overpower the outfit.
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Outfit Harmony: Consider lapel width, jacket color, and overall aesthetic. Rustic weddings may feature more organic, wildflower-inspired styles, while formal weddings usually call for structured florals.
🌿 Do Women Wear Boutonnières?
Boutonnières are typically for men, but women in tuxedos or suits can absolutely wear one! Alternatively, corsages (worn on the wrist or pinned to a dress) are common for:
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Mothers of the bride or groom
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Grandmothers
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Female officiants or VIPs
If the aesthetic suits it, go for a matching mini boutonnière for any suit-wearing women in the wedding party!
🌸 Final Thoughts: A Small Detail That Makes a Big Statement
Whether your vibe is modern minimalism or lush romantic florals, boutonnières are a simple yet meaningful way to highlight your wedding party. From the groom to the ring bearer and the fathers in between, these little lapel blooms tie everyone together in a subtle but powerful way.
Just remember: the key is intention. Each boutonnière tells a story—of connection, tradition, and celebration.
